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- 7 Authentic Qualities (7)
- Abundance (3)
- Acceptance (10)
- Action (11)
- Adaptability (6)
- Adaptive Freedom Concepts (2)
- Alignment (6)
- Animation (4)
- Appreciation (4)
- Authenticity (15)
- Awareness (12)
- Behavior (2)
- Change (1)
- Compassion (1)
- Competence (1)
- Connection (3)
- Emotions (1)
- Excellence (1)
- Freedom (4)
- Holism (2)
- Holistic Nature (1)
- Human Condition (3)
- Meaning (1)
- Mind (3)
- Natural You (6)
- Nonconscious (3)
- Purpose (1)
- Reality (1)
- Relationships (2)
- Spirituality (2)
- Success (1)
- Values (3)
- Vision (2)
Freedom in Adaptive Freedom is the capacity to decide and act in any situation in complete harmony with your values and in proportion to the demands of the situation. It means the opportunity to act in a manner that is entirely conducive to your well-being, while considering the needs of others and with complete responsibility for your decisions and actions.
Adaptive Freedom implies being able to adapt yourself to the demands and opportunities of life. It presumes an ability to exercise choice and make decisions in a responsible way. Choice is the essence of freedom and freedom is all about making choices. The ultimate measure of freedom is that you are fully responsible for yourself and the choices you make.
This implies acting out of a sense of your values rather than your passions or desires, and achieving balance and equilibrium through a continuing process of self-fulfillment.
This type of freedom is epitomized by peace of mind which is essentially the absence of distress. This is a freedom to live a life of meaning and purpose, a life of happiness and contentment—the freedom to live well.
Most likely you are seeking freedom as a response to something missing in your life. You have gaps you need to fill. Maybe you feel your life is somewhat flawed or imperfect. You want more from life. This “more” varies from person to person. Particular needs seem to be linked to your stage in life or the“Lifetime” you are in right now.
Over the period of your life you have five Lifetimes:
Playing Time: 0-17 years (carefree, full of fun, life is mostly play).
Getting Time: 18-30 years (getting qualified, getting jobs, getting married).
Giving Time: 31-50 years (rearing kids, working, investing, striving).
Being Time: 51-70 years (thinking, taking stock, life-changing).
Taking Time: 71+ years (retiring, relaxing, reflecting).
I got the idea for the Getting Time from Michelle Phillips, a Hay House Radio host and author. As we move through these Lifetimes we come to way-points which challenge us. These are wake-up calls to find our own truths and start living authentically. Adaptive Freedom is helpful for people throughout all these stages.
In the later stages of the Playing Time and early part of the Getting Time young people examine what they would like to do with their lives, what they want from life and how they plan to go about it. But this is usually a secondary consideration at a time when carefree enjoyment of life is paramount.
In the later stages of the Getting Time people start questioning what life is all about. Their confidence in previous life choices may be wavering and issues linked to purpose and definitions of success and happiness become important as they experience challenges in relationships and marriage.
Much of the Giving Time is spent is service to others, especially in nurturing the young to help them create their own success in life. In the later stages of the Giving Time people may have a sense that in all the giving they have lost sight of their own life—that time is starting to run out and their earlier life-goals may remain unfulfilled. Their career, relationships and lifestyle may not match up to their original life-plan so they begin to either redouble their efforts or change course or perhaps do both.
The transition from the Giving Time to the Being Time is often described as the “midlife crisis”—a period of instability, anxiety and change. During this period people tend to review past choices and think about their final years. Awareness of death is usually a feature of this period as is a sense that despite accomplishment life seems to lack meaning.
For men this can often mean appraising their career in a new light and coming to terms with their past, facing reality perhaps for the first time and examining what wealth truly means. For women this can be a time of discovering their personal identity beyond the partner-wife-mother roles, and seeking self-reliance and independence.
The good news is that your circumstances, environment and conditioning have brought you to the place you are at right now, but the choices you make now can bring you to a new and better place. Experience changes the physical structure of the brain. And since you can chose the kinds of learning experiences you have, you actually have power to affect the structure of your own brain, and life, both for good and for ill. All that is necessary is to exercise that choice—to choose to live a free and authentic life.
The process of becoming adaptively free takes place in your lived experience. If it is true, as the philosophy of Adaptive Freedom claims that we make or shape ourselves in the context of our life as we live it, then it is in acting and experimenting followed by observing results and reflecting on their consequences that we learn and grow. Adaptive freedom is therefore action-based learning. While the effective use of your mental capacities is important Adaptive freedom holds that ultimately you do not ‘think’ yourself into meaningful and purposive action, you ‘act’ yourself into meaningful and purposeful thinking. You should look therefore to become aware of and understand your behavior, especially when it is automatic or appears to occur without your conscious approval. This involves improving your capacity for focused attention and self-awareness.